Alexander's Charity Ball 
in association with 
Giants Events and RAI Events Leeds 

are Proud to Present 

A Winter Wonderland Charity Ball 2014 

Saturday 15th February 2014 

New Dock Hall, Royal Armouries, Leeds 

Tickets are £50 per head a non refundable deposit is payable upon booking tables of 10 receive a 10% discount 

I know I know I got too impatient not to tell you all and the artwork is not in place but the date is booked and the location is agreed so why not! 

I am pleased and proud to say that we are working with RAI events team and I hope that this will be a long term partnership and I am very very excited to be working with Jessica and her team in Leeds. 

So we are go for launch for 2014 I am ready and willing to take your bookings and deposits as soon as you are ready.  As previously we need a deposit of £20 per person which is non refundable payable to our account or by cheque if you email me at alexanderscharityball@gmail.com I can confirm with you all the information you need.

Remember what an amazing time you had this year?  Well 2014 is set to blow your socks off ...

So I've started a new job this week!

Meeting new people and colleagues and so that question comes up, people are naturally interested in you, they want to know about you ...

How many kids have you got ? 

This question is one I don't actually know the answer too...

Strange? Yes I know but that one innocent question can open a can of worms where I'm concerned.  I want to answer honestly and most of the time I do and say I have 5 but that's not the end of it, there is so much more to it than that.

I finally got a chance to stand and have a chat with a couple of my new colleagues and so I was asked and I replied with my truly honest answer ... I have 5 boys but one of them died of cot death 6 and half years ago.  It's awkward and I know it can make people uncomfortable, only because they are afraid of upsetting me and often apologise.  It's because they don't know me, I'm happy you asked, I'm happy to let you know because that way I can tell you about all of them.

My other awkward scenario came up at work last night when a lady of new Twin Boys asked for my help.  Do I say it? Do I say I have twin boys? Do I share my memories?  I told my customer last night that I have twin boys.  It's not a lie is it?  I didn't tell her about my tragedy, a stranger doesn't need to know that but I could share with her the experience of newborn twins but what I couldn't do is tell her about when they grow up.  About that bond, whether they continue to play together so nicely, whether they have separate friends or stay in the same group, Do I still dress them the same or have their chosen their own way, This is what I feel cheated about.

I want to say it get's easier, that they are great friends that they still have that bond but I can't because I've been cheated out of that.  I remember being that twin mum that everyone fussed over,having those two special little bundles with such a bright future I was that mummy...

Don't be frightened to ask


Don't apologise for wanting to know 

Let me talk I'll tell you when I can't but I am proud of my children as you are of yours 

I carry my broken heart everywhere all the time, you don't know it but it's good to talk